Nothing last forever ,trust me when i say these feelings will past and everything will be ok ,you may have heard this lines
Yess my friend's you would be thinking i am writing these because i had a recent breakup -no ,no ,no ...
This is because while watching a movie idea this came in my mind where the person had so real issue which i thought is not covered anywhere
It sounds like you got your heart broken by your friend—someone you trusted. And, like any other heartbreak, this one will take time to heal. It will eventually scar over… and remind you not only where you have been, but what you have lived through.
But many walk away with a smile after all pain though, I don't know how but people should themselves to so good that we fall in trap and later realise how they are actually...
People never treat you the way you treat them. They treat you the way you treat yourself.
When your focus of attention is outside of yourself, you will most likely not get the kind of results you are looking for in other people, no matter how low your expectations have become. If you want to prevent yourself from further hurt, then you have to drop the whole thing all together. Stop playing with the expectation bar hoping to find the sweet spot that will give you what you are looking for in others.
Just drop that. It won’t work.
Instead, put your attention on the inside of yourself. Start Becoming an observer of your own experience and know that whatever mistreatment you are receiving from the outside, it is happening on the inside of you first.
If people are using you or treating you without the respect you deserve , you need to do some searching into how that came to be in the first place. Where did that disrespectful behavior start? What event in your life caused that? How did you grow up normalizing the disrespect toward yourself?
You see, this is really between you and you. I guarantee the moment you begin to find the traces of past woundings and experieneses that caused you to normalize the stinky way others treat you- the more you will shift internally- and the more you will attract a higher level of respect from others.
The only way is to go inward, not outward. When you stop trying to control other's behaviors and interactions with you and focus instead on your own inner healing and development, the whole atmosphere around others will change before your eyes.
So the focus starts How do I keep less expectations from people?
By not getting too attached to people.
That’s how you learn to expect less. When you’re not too emotionally attached to someone, their behavior does not affect you that much, you don’t think about them all day, and ultimately, you don’t keep a lot of expectations from them too.
What I wrote above, looks easy to say, right? Yes.
I know it’s difficult. But it’s a way you should learn. Build your mind to not get too attached to anybody. It’s not wrong if you do, but you should always know and remember that you are your first priority!
Start fulfilling your expectations with yourself, and soon, you would stop worrying about people falling down to your expectations.
You know why people expect so much love, care and pampering from someone? It’s because they are not able to give themselves that much love, care and attention. We don’t and we expect someone else to. Sameway, when we do something good for someone, we expect same in return, why? Because subconsciously, we stood up for someone because we knew we might need them too. Why did we think that way? Because we do not believe in ourselves! Because we feel we can’t be complete on our own.
The day You learn to keep less expectations from people, when you learn to keep more expectations from yourself. When you learn to make yourself the centre of your world.
first step you should take is to realize the fact that nobody is perfect and that makes people to make mistakes. No one can fullfill everyone's expectations, no matter how hard they try to do it.
Fact is simple that One simply can't please everybody. Human relationship are complex and that's why unrealistic expectations regarding can disappoint or frustate us too . So its better to stop expecting from people and here is that you can do:-
-1 Try to recognize those unrealistic expectations you migth have in regard to other people's behaviour and let them go. Try to be more realistic.
- 2 Figure out the difference between expextations and dependence. These are two different facts. If you depend too much, you are risking your feelings to get hurt. Never make your happiness other people's responsibility.
Sometimes it's good to expect certain things but just be careful not to cross line between expextations and dependence.
When you are doing something nice for someone, do it for yourself and try not to expect anything in return. This way, you won't get disappointed. Be nice because you want to, not because you have to.
Let your attitude be part of the solution to your problems; focus on living, learning, and breaking free. Take at least one extra step forward every time you stumble.
Forgiving someone is possibly the hardest part of letting go, but it’s also one of the most beneficial things you can do. Accept that you are only human, and humans make mistakes; it’s how we learn, after all. You did the best you knew how to at the time, and now you’re willing to admit it didn’t work out so well.
Stop criticizing and regreting yourself. Talk to yourself kindly, like a teacher, rather than a harsh master. Unkind words will only make you feel frustrated, inferior and sad, dragging you back into that negative cycle. A warm, encouragement and positive thinking, meditation and going to do your favourite work will help a lot .
Deal with reality to make sensible decisions. Don’t allow anger, self-justification, or feelings of unfairness to stop you from doing the right thing. Sometimes the way we have to constantly battle and the things we have to do to solve our problems may feel unfair, but the relentless efforts bring results.
Keeping your end goals in mind when making decisions. Do what works on a consistent basis and you will eventually escape from your problems, making it worth the fight.
Your mind and positive attitude are ultimately the things that can keep you stuck or end your struggles. use them wisely, and you can overcome any problem, no matter how serious it seems
Accepting the harsh reality is better , than anything in this world.
We are imperfect , we're weak , we're not the brightest.
When we understand what we really are - that's the beginning. We can try to be better everyday.
Life is all about moving on. We will loose our beloved , we will loose our hair , our health. Loosing is reality. Once we accept reality we will be unstoppable - I mean nothing can hold us back anymore. Cause we know we made this far which we thought we never could.
Once you accept that, you will feel more relaxed and you will be able to focus on your own happiness.
Start believing in yourself. Find your happiness.
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